Just like so many mothers there are countless things that I want to do with my children and want to help them achieve. For instance, I want my sons to get their Eagle Scout award. I also want them to get a few other church related rewards. Not for the recognition but because I love the idea of helping them set goals, work toward something, and then really achieve the end result.
I believe that a lot of moms have a problem because it is hard to let the child do all of the work and to not take over at least part of it. We all want so much for our children but it is important to remember that they need to earn things for themselves. I also feel that children need some prodding but it isn’t my job to take over all the drive for the Eagle Scout award (as one example).
There is a lady that our family knows that wants her son to get his Eagle Scout and she has been the main driving force for him to get it. He whines, complains and drags his feet and she keeps him going but at the end of the day I wonder if she isn’t the one who really deserves the award, not the son. She has put so much work into his award. Not that I think it is bad to push our children because they cannot possibly have the wisdom to realize how good some programs are for them or how much some things will add to their lives. I just don’t think we should do everything but show up for them.
Then, I run into the fact that I may have overloaded a few things. It’s hard for me to keep up with all of it for four kids and then I wonder how they are fairing. If you have read my blog for long you know that I do not believe in over scheduling children. Hopefully we are not over scheduled but we have quite a few things going on all at once and today it is feeling quite overwhelming.
